I haven’t written a blog post in over a month. In case you were wondering, I still haven’t finished the 30-day writing challenge that I started back in November.
I did, however, finish reading The Happiness Project and manage to watch all three Lord of the Rings movies in the same time period. I found an apartment in Indianapolis. I also interviewed for and accepted a digital + content marketing internship with a cool tech startup called TinderBox for the summer. And last but certainly not least, I got engaged to my best friend! Post-grad life doesn’t seem so scary anymore.
Frankly, I’m still in shock that any of this happened within the last month, because HOW. Amazing things happen when you learn to trust the big man upstairs, friends.
Up until last year, I thought people who got married young were crazy and stupid and definitely not ready for it. Marriage is scary and hard. People our age aren’t supposed to settle down. We’re supposed to keep everything casual, run away from commitment and avoid the “DTR” conversation at all costs.
But I think what a lot of these folks don’t realize is that we, as humans, are relational beings. We crave intimacy. We like to sit in coffee shops for two hours with a good friend and even better conversation. We like to feel loved and known and accepted. Marriage gives you all of those things and so much more.
I knew I wanted to marry Isaac last August. We had only been officially dating for about a month at that point, but I knew. It’s funny to think back on our lives up to this point. We grew up in neighborhoods across the street from each other. We were both in Mr. Kreider’s third period honors pre-calc class in high school. We went to the zoo one time with a group of our friends and he touched a sloth (!!!!!). We kind of dated the summer after freshman year of college but went back to being friends afterwards. We spent a lot of those summer nights sitting in his car on my driveway and talking for a couple hours, long after we had left our best friend Matt’s house. That summer, we also watched all nine seasons of The Office together (Actually, the ninth season wasn’t even on Netflix yet, so he signed up for a Hulu account in order to get the free seven-day trial so we could watch all of it and then cancel the account before it charged his credit card, LOL).
For the next two years, we would come home during our breaks and hang out at our favorite sports bar to catch up. We went to St. Louis for spring break last year. He really was one of my best friends. The craziest thing, though, is that throughout the past few years we’ve spent as best friends, I knew that someday I wanted to marry a man like him. And the best thing is that we have so many memories together already — literally YEARS of memories — and we aren’t even married yet.
I always hated when people said “When you know, you know.” But they couldn’t be more right about that.
Marriage is definitely scary and hard. It’s not always going to be fun. But when I think about who I want to have by my side during the not-so-fun times, it’s him. He’s selfless and patient and compassionate. He challenges me and supports me and makes me food because I can’t cook. He loves me like Jesus loves people.
Who would have thought that the kid I met at a school carnival one afternoon would be my husband 11 years later? Life is crazy like that, I guess.